Being a people pleaser does NOT mean being a doormat

You’ve probably seen them in your company: The alpha personality in the office. They walk around the office, saying what they want and not resting until they get their way. They’re never afraid to raise their voice and it’s clear from their enviable collection of power suits that they are the dominant personality in the office. And I’m willing to bet that you’ve spent some time feeling very jealous of them, wishing you could be more dominant and less submissive. But I’m here to tell you that being the submissive person in the office does NOT equate to being a doormat and there are a lot of positives to being a “people pleaser.”


You are a great mediator. The desire to make sure everyone is happy is a fantastic quality. Something that a submissive personality craves. When there are problems with employees in the office, your staff can rely on you to help smooth things over between the parties involved so that the work environment can go back to a peaceful situation.


You can be trusted. Along the same lines of keeping peace in the workplace, employees can trust you to keep their admissions in confidence. The last thing you want to do is stir up gossip in the office. Being able to trust a coworker or employee is highly valuable to c-level employees.


Your opinion will be heard. A dominant person is always stating their opinion and recommendations and constantly ensuring that they’re heard. At some point, their message can get lost because they are saying too much. If you hold back until you are absolutely sure about something, people are more likely to stand up and take note.


You are a hard worker. Sure, there’s merit to networking and fighting your way to the top, but at the end of the day, hard work pays off and most submissive personalities work very hard to make certain that their contributions are worthwhile and valuable to their employers.


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From regional manager to international executive with quadruple the pay, Karen Keller’s unique blueprint carefully outlined the step-by-step process for creating high-impact influence and let me know when I was being influenced in a way that didn’t serve me.
Lloyd Moore
Global Director Supplier Quality & Development - Lear Corporation – South Carolina