Well Being 3

Women are rescuers. Often at their own expense. They rescue people at work, in their companies, even distant relatives. It happens consciously and subconsciously. We don’t even recognize our codependent behavior until it's too late.

Women assume, sometimes against their better judgment, responsibility for making sure everyone is happy or at least satisfied. For some reason, we believe it's our job to make sure all is right with the world.

Confused? Not sure if this is you?

Here are a few regular statements from a bona fide rescuer:

1. Health. Women are taking charge of their health. They want to make informed decisions, to have early detection, and to have increased knowledge of what is possible. Women are refusing to assume someone else’s decision as their own.

Home. A place to live, feel secure, be free. Yes. But not the home you sleep in every night.

This home is where you return when you’ve been hurt or damaged. The home where you celebrate your victories and evaluate your future plans. This is the place inside you where nobody else is privy. Where you find unconditional love and regard.

The home inside you is a protected space. Keep it free from people parasites. These are people who would love to enter and feed off of you. Don’t let that happen. This is your home to be your haven and free from disruption.

It's no secret that what you wear says a lot about who you are, your self-esteem, and your professionalism. Additionally, your work clothes "brand" your image on the job. So if you want to be taken seriously and be successful in your career, you have to dress accordingly. But you don't have to wear stodgy stuff or be endlessly confined in panty hose. As Mark Twain said, "Clothes make the man." They also make the woman!

Every relationship’s cornerstone is based on trust. And trust comes from telling the truth. So what is the reason so many relationships fail? Here are five:

It's Friday afternoon; you've faced another long week at work. You love your job and your family, but the kids are driving you up the wall, and it's hubby's night out with the guys. So you order pizza, throw a movie in the DVD player and numb out to Beauty and the Beast. Not the most relaxing way to de-stress.

A group of anthropologists at Cambridge were conducting research on the concepts of pessimism and optimism. Their subjects were two young boys: one a pessimist and the other an optimist. The pessimistic boy was put in a room full of wonderful toys. The optimistic boy was put in a room with nothing but a barrel of manure.

When the scientists looked in on the pessimistic boy one hour later, they found him complaining about this toy that didn't work, that one needed fresh batteries, the next one wasn't the right color, etc., etc. Recording their findings, they moved on.

The insidious workplace backstabbers have to be one of the most frustrating people we have to put up with! Spreaders of malicious gossip and power-hungry manipulators, they spin wicked webs of emotional destruction, hunting down and trapping unwitting pawns in their incessantly evil games. Sometimes they can be overtly blunt; other times they're subtle and coy, gaining your trust and then turning the tables when you least expect it.