Did Valentine’s Day feel like a disease to you? Something to get away from ? What is VD anyway? It is the one day out of the year when greeting cards, jewelry and chocolate stocks go up in value. Why? Because people buy, literally, into the hype about ‘this is the day of love’ nonsense.
Valentine’s Day takes a toll on women. What about the woman who is single, in a loveless relationship, or recovering from domestic violence? Divorce rates are high. Women are staying single longer, putting career (and financial freedom) before romance.
Valentine’s Day is another reminder that the world is arranged for and celebrates couples.
Women need to influence the celebration of love the other 364 days of the year. We are tired of the fake sentiments that we are supposed to fall for or over – depending on your slant of view.
I think it’s about having the power, real power to take charge of your life. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, said this, “Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.” And this applies to love.
Karen Keller’s 5 Jewels To Conquer VD Burnout:
1. Compose your own mindset. What was the conversation in your head on VD? Make it one of peaceful memories not anxiety-laden sentiments. Set the intention to experience the wonder of you. Stay confident that that’s where you’re meant to be on that particular day.
2. Believe in you. What do your beliefs tell you? Challenge assumptions that do not support your choice to be where you are. Tune into yourself to become powerful. If your belief about Valentine’s Day is one of “If I don’t have a date or get flowers I must be flawed” then you set yourself up to make this a belief – opening the door to behave as flawed. Your belief can influence perfection in positioning yourself for success.
3. Move beyond tradition. Call your best girlfriends or your mother or daughter and make a new custom of celebrating the love you have for the women in your life. There is much to celebrate. I did this with my daughter on Valentine’s Day one year – she was 15. We got dressed up, put a little bling on, and went out to dinner. We had a blast! She learned how to take charge of her own happiness and sense of definition.
4. Become Marie Curie. Women are great innovators. Creation is always happening. We are naturally made that way. Our imagination guarantees our ability to come up with great ideas. Create a unique special way that you would love to celebrate VD and then DO IT!
When it comes to Valentine’s Day, imagine all possibilities; you’ll find romance – if you want to, you’ll be introduced to the essence of you. Women are in charge of what they want to innovate.
5. Trust your Intuition or ‘inner fluency.’ Women have complete access – 24 hours a day – to their intuition. How well do you know what you want? How good are you at inviting things you don’t want?
Any power you need over Valentine’s Day is at your disposal. The success of your inner fluency is to the exact degree that the beliefs you hold in your heart, the thought you think, the words you say and the actions you take line up.
As long as you wear these 5 Jewels you will love yourself. Valentine’s Day is a time to recognize and acknowledge the power and richness that is you. Whether you are involved with someone, or you are single, experience these 5 jewels to celebrate a great day for love – everyday.
What’s your take on VD? Tell me in 2 sentences.
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