women and influence

How to Make People Listen

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

When you’re trying to get your point across, but no one is listening, it can be the most frustrating experience in the world. Plus, if you stoop to screaming, all you’re really going to wind up with in the end is a sore throat. Here are my top ten tips for making people listen to you without actually having to yell.

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I’m sure by now, you’ve all heard the term “self-fulfilling prophecy.” Some of them can be good, but more often, we use the term when we’re talking about something negative. When we self-sabotage our own career with negative thoughts or actions. Most of the time, I don’t even think we’re aware of our actions, but the worst is when we know exactly what we’re doing and still sabotage our own success. I like to refer to the hurdles or destruction we inadvertently create as “mind fields.” So what are the varying levels of danger and how can you overcome them?

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When it comes to influence, women have it made – ONLY when we focus on what’s going on inside ourselves. For so long men have taught us that influence is something external from us. Something that we do to another person to get an automatic response – not always one you wanted.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth … especially for women. When it comes to influence, women understand it differently. We prefer being influential to influencing. Yes, there is a difference … an important difference.

Being influential is a higher order of influence.

But the problem women run into is they have not discovered or claimed their real capacity to be influential. We’re so busy. But we need to

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Smart Women Appreciate

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

Smart women appreciate a lot of things, but today, I’m going to give you an inside peek as to what those things really look like. Sure, flowers and Valentine’s Day candy are always in the mix, but we’ve built this piece to be shared with men and women alike. And it’s not about buying things – it’s about the things that make life easier for the smart women in your life!
Initiative: Smart women love it when their colleagues, family members and friends take the initiative. Go the extra mile, grab an extra latte, stay a little longer or make us laugh just because they know we need it.

Appreciation: Giving credit where credit is due and helping

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Tis’ the Season… for Women!

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

2010 was a great year for women. We are on the edge of new financial power, becoming an economic force. We are improving society by influencing how women are viewed in the workplace. We are growing businesses at a rapid rate, redefining family roles, and exercising major leadership to make a difference in the world.[...]

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There’s no doubt that Oprah’s become the icon of women and influence. We can’t argue with that, can we? Riveting guests, great stories, attention drawn to phenomenal causes and a shining example of a woman who stands on her own, she’s paved a way in history for the influential woman. Want to know a secret,[...]

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Why I Love Being Wrong

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

I really do love being wrong. I relish it, I wait for it and embrace it every time it walks into my life. I greet Wrong with a smile and if it were possible, I’d buy it a mimosa at Sunday brunch. Now, I don’t go out of my way to BE wrong, mind you,[...]

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Perfume or Poison?

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

Being a person who has the capacity to influence others is big stuff. Sometimes we forget how much of an impact our actions or words can have.  I like to think about our influence as either perfume or poison. One is uplifting and pleasing. The other is toxic and hurtful. Here’s an example. When I[...]

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The Mother and Daughter Relationship

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

Throughout history, the mother and daughter relationship has been a give and take or a push and shove relationship – depending on where you’re standing.  Sometimes these relationships are terribly strained ending up in a stand off when the daughter is in her forties or fifties.  “I love my mother, but she drives me crazy!”[...]

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Part 3 of a 3 part series: Living Creative Results Part 1 of this series helped you get started – discovering that you do have a creative side and how to access it.  Part 2 focused on dealing with the gremlins.  You know – the self-limiting beliefs that invade your mind. Now it’s time to[...]

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