relationships

Detox Your Hurtful Relationships

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

I know no one sets out to get into a hurtful or damaging relationship. No one wakes up one morning thinking, “Gee, I’d really like a business partner that sabotages me at every step” or “Boy, I’d like for this friend to really take advantage of our relationship.” But the fact of the matter is that they happen and, as much as I hate to say it, we’re the ones who let it happen. Sure, the other person involved is screwing up your life, but somehow, you’ve sort of gotten yourself into this hot water, so it’s time to get yourself out. And it’s just like putting out a fire.

Stop. Confront the person who’s causing so much negativity in your life. Tell them that you want nothing else to do with the way that they have been treating you. You’re in control of your own life now and you won’t be bullied or manipulated into doing things that negatively affect you.

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What does likeability have to do with influence? Everything. For instance, when was the last time you left your child with someone you didn’t like? How many times do you buy from someone you despise? When did you follow a dislikeable person’s instructions? How much do you listen to a person who pretends to be[...]

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Things happen in our past when it comes to relationships. Whether they’re professional, personal or romantic, many times, when we end up in a bad relationship, it can be hard to let go even after that relationship ends. But it’s important not to cling to the past. Don’t let it stick to you and weigh you down when making decisions. Here are six simple steps to moving past a bad relationship and getting into some good ones.

Step one: Recognize the reluctance. Before you can really overcome any past negativity, you have to learn to recognize any hesitation to move forward with something new due to experiences in the past. If you’re feeling apprehensive about something, decide if it’s because your intuition says it’s not right or because you’re scared of a repeat of the past.

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Smart business requires you to connect and network. You have the choice to align with people who can help you and people who won’t do much for you. Surprisingly, many people in business spend way too much time with people who don’t or won’t help them. Then they wonder why things aren’t moving forward for[...]

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5 Steps to Confront a Situation

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

Every person faces confrontation. Some face it better than others. You know what it feels like when a person gets in your face, yelling about what you did wrong. Then this person proceeds to tell you what to do next in order to correct things. It’s awful. Unexpected. Embarrassing. But there’s the flip side. What[...]

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In the previous two issues of Influence It! Real Power For Women, you learned about the relationship between emotion and selling. This knowledge is critical in your ability to understand human nature, emotions, and persuasion. As the world-renowned neuroscientist Damasio showed, no decision humans make is based on rational thinking alone. So, let’s continue on[...]

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Triggers are alive and well for everyone! They are part of our memory, there to guide us and sometimes protect us. Triggers work by way of emotions. When we are exposed to a certain stimuli, and depending on our history, we experience a rush of emotion that tells us how to react. When you apply[...]

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When you think of a successful career woman, what do you think of? Do you think of the stereotypical ice queen depicted on so many television shows? The woman with the tight bun, frozen features and impeccable wardrobe who doesn’t know how to function outside of the boardroom. It’s a pervasive stereotype, to be sure, but just because that’s the way you’ve been told by society that you have to behave in order to get ahead, doesn’t mean that’s how it has to be.

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5 Ways To Make Guilt-Free Choices

by Karen Keller, Ph.D.

Women are faced with millions of choices about work, family, buying, business, love, God – and the list goes on. They have social networks, websites, focus groups, dinner gatherings, parties and over-the-fence neighbor talk to exchange thought-provoking, enticing conversations. Women are no longer confined to the boundaries of the kitchen. They are industrious, educated and[...]

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Women are bombarded with tons of New Year’s messages – do this, do that, don’t do this or don’t do that! It becomes a blur and overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to. You can reach new heights and conquer whatever it is you want. You feel the pressure of “having” to lose 12 pounds, eat[...]

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