http://karen-keller.com/blog/what%e2%80%99s-more-fearful-than-public-speaking-having-influence-women-fear-and-influence/ The Influence Expert For Women Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:19:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=7478 hourly 1 http://karen-keller.com/blog/what%e2%80%99s-more-fearful-than-public-speaking-having-influence-women-fear-and-influence/comment-page-1/#comment-530 Joseph Mullin Wed, 28 Jul 2010 13:01:55 +0000 http://karen-keller.com/?p=1217#comment-530 Karen, Another aspect that you left out is that it also affects your confidence to some degree. Second guessing yourself will erode your confidence. I have worked with women who were strong and intelligent and very capable of performing their jobs. But they all seemed to to hesitate from the fear you mentioned which eventually led to a confidence problem. I would purposely ask questions in meetings to get them to overcome their fear and boost their confidence. While it took almost a year to see results it did work. On another occasion I was talking with two young women about their business. They were both energetic and confident about their business and the services they would supply. I then said well then lets negotiate a deal. Their confidence level dropped. You could visibly see it disappear. I then asked what had happened? They could not explain it. W talked about how confidence would be a major part of them doing business and that they had the expertise to provide great service and they needed to figure what triggered that drop in confidence. Was it fear of negotiating? Or was it the fear you speak of? Very good discussion. From a leadership standpoint it makes me wonder how I can help them overcome their fear and to be more successful. Karen,
Another aspect that you left out is that it also affects your confidence to some degree. Second guessing yourself will erode your confidence. I have worked with women who were strong and intelligent and very capable of performing their jobs. But they all seemed to to hesitate from the fear you mentioned which eventually led to a confidence problem.
I would purposely ask questions in meetings to get them to overcome their fear and boost their confidence. While it took almost a year to see results it did work.
On another occasion I was talking with two young women about their business. They were both energetic and confident about their business and the services they would supply. I then said well then lets negotiate a deal. Their confidence level dropped. You could visibly see it disappear. I then asked what had happened? They could not explain it. W talked about how confidence would be a major part of them doing business and that they had the expertise to provide great service and they needed to figure what triggered that drop in confidence. Was it fear of negotiating? Or was it the fear you speak of?
Very good discussion. From a leadership standpoint it makes me wonder how I can help them overcome their fear and to be more successful.

]]> http://karen-keller.com/blog/what%e2%80%99s-more-fearful-than-public-speaking-having-influence-women-fear-and-influence/comment-page-1/#comment-521 Izzy Sat, 24 Jul 2010 15:07:52 +0000 http://karen-keller.com/?p=1217#comment-521 I had never really thought about fear like this before. I recognise some of this in myself. I'm going to try those suggestions next week - especially the one about asking different questions. Very interesting - food for thought. I had never really thought about fear like this before. I recognise some of this in myself. I’m going to try those suggestions next week – especially the one about asking different questions. Very interesting – food for thought.

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