New Year’s resolutions fizzle because women do not entertain the benefit of the benefit.
What is the benefit of the benefit? And why would that be important to women?
Here’s an illustration of what the ‘benefit of the benefit’ is all about. In 2006, a friend of mine, Mike Green, gave a presentation to a convention of Florida teachers. His talk was about bullying in the school system. Mike explained that the main reason the teachers were attending the talk was to understand the causes and effects of bullying—and to stop it.
Then he went on to explain another, deeper reason that the teachers showed up: so they could restore order and discipline to the classroom.
He further went on to talk about a more profound reason they were there—to return to experiencing their love of teaching.
That was it! The benefit of the benefit of the benefit! Benefit #1 was In 2010, your benefits of the benefits are waiting….
. . . Regain my health by making sense of the Soul-Mind-Body- connection.
The mind processes what the soul offers. The soul is the message inside each of us that creates our passion and desire for living a life with ease and grace. This is the center of our well-being.
The Soul speaks, the mind processes and the body performs. This is the natural order of things.
Well-being is more than diet and exercise, three cars in the garage, a white picket fence and Vogue clothes in the closet. It’s about an attitude that whispers to you that you’re worth whatever you need to do to feel its energy in your mind and body. When we allow it, the soul supports our power to effort in thinking positively and feeling joy down to the bones.
Understanding the purpose of the soul will get you, and keep you, in those skinny jeans, maintain your joy de verve while chasing your three year old, and will have you—and your partner—looking forward to putting the kids to bed early!
. . . Take charge of my business and career.
You can build a strong network of influencers according to Jaymie Scotto. The best way to advance in business is to know who the influencers are around you. For example, if you were to sell ice cream who is your customer? The mother buying the cone or the six year old son who is hungry for ice cream? Knowing the difference will make doors swing open for you.
Do more than entertain the fact that the best career move may be starting your own business. Make a step-by-step plan to make money with your passion.
. . . Get in touch with my money.
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“The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee. And I will pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.”– John D. Rockefeller
For the past one hundred or so years, psychologists have been trying to figure out what motivates us human beings to do the things we do. (Wouldn’t you love to know?)
Sigmund Freud said it was our unconscious drive for pleasure. Alfred Adler believed it was our need for esteem among our peers. Abraham Maslow thought it to be the necessity of self-actualization, and Viktor Frankl considered it could be found in our constant quest for meaning.
Now these are all worthwhile and immensely wise.
What I know to be true is recognizing another piece of the pie…simply knowing what’s right for us. There lies within you a sanctuary that brings out the very best to influence your life.
Every woman understands the value of knowing everything she can about her human nature, right? [Read More]
Dale Carnegie had a major influence on my life. When I was 12 years old my father gave me the copy of his book “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” After moving to a new town and switching to a new school, I think dad thought it would be helpful.
It was.
Thanks to my father’s insight, and the “paint-by-numbers” guidance in Carnegie’s book, I learned the art of connecting with kids and making my exchanges with them productive.
Originally published in 1936, How to Win Friends and Influence People is one of the first bestselling self-help books ever written; to date it has sold 15 million copies, has been translated into 17 languages and is distributed in 40 countries worldwide.
Carnegie was a poor farmer’s boy who ultimately found success teaching public speaking.
His first book was called Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business. It came out in 1913, just a year after Carnegie (who later changed his surname from Carnagey at a time when Andrew Carnegie was a widely revered and recognized name) tapped into the average American’s desire to have more self-confidence.
The Missouri native was an early proponent of the philosophy known in the personal growth field as responsibility assumption. Primarily, responsibility assumption holds that each individual has substantial or total responsibility for the events and circumstances that befalls her in life.
While it’s not new news that each person has at least some role in shaping his experience, responsibility assumption is the DNA understanding in the realm of cause and effect.
What it says is that the individual’s mental contribution to his or her own experience is substantially greater than is normally thought.
This is very important and therefore, very powerful.
Have you heard of “The Secret”? That movie is chockfull of responsibility assumption.
Why 20/20 Influence is vital for women
What are the 3 major barriers to influence? Fear, greed, and impatience.
What do these 3 barriers have in common? All are emotions. Once you learn (and conquer) the psychological impact of these emotions on having influence you step on the path to being an influence expert.
1. Fear. The most driving emotion in our makeup. Fear raises our uncertainty – about decisions about actions. These common fears hold you back from having influence: fear of risk, fear of rejection, and fear of failure.
Fear comes out of negative thoughts. How many times do you say, “What if . . .?” or “I’m not sure that I can . . .” or (my favorite) “I can’t . . .” What you get from these negative thoughts is lost opportunity, rejection, and failure. Everything you wanted to avoid in the first place.
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