From the category archives:
Women are connection. They connect with their friends, their children, and their spouse. Women connect others. We are the bridges that build relationships and foster communication. Basically, women are the directors of the future.
Women are wonderful sources of inspiration and support for each other. They are willing to bare their souls and share their experiences, even with perfect strangers. Put two women who are [Read More]
I could really use some input on today’s blog post- can you please help me out?
Do you ever feel like you have to ask permission for everything in life? [Read More]
Coco Chanel not only created the fashionable and immortal suit and “little black dress” but she made women believe that they can live their own lives, they can be independent and wear clothes according to their own preferences. So powerful was Coco Chanel’s influence that today, a bottle of Chanel No. 5 is sold every 30 seconds. Now, that’s influence!
Coco set out to [Read More]
In my post on 2-25-10 I shared the hidden role fear plays in our willingness to influence and persuade. When women accept that fear is in our imagination – we can deal with it. This was the first way to stamp out the fear we subconsciously carry with us.
But there’s another way to conquer the fear that stops our influencing power.
And that is to understand our relationship to fear. I am a huge believer in the power of relationships – from our cells to our outward expressions with people. Examine the relationship you have with yourself. Why start there? [Read More]
Influence Tip For Women:
It’s important to be aware of your comfort or discomfort with persuasion.
Find out how fear plays a role in your influencing or persuasive behavior.
Here’s a quick self-exam. Yes, ladies, just as we do an external exam it is equally important to do an internal exam. Read these statements. Be as honest as you can (nobody will see your answers – only you!) Please answer Yes or No to the following:
1. I second guess myself more than 2 times every day.
2. When ordering a meal at a café I hesitate because of what others will say.
3. I feel totally confident in all my decisions to influence someone.
4. I listen to and act on others’ attempts to influence me.
5. I always consider how my actions will affect others.
6. I am usually the first person to answer yes to requests.
7. I tend to disregard or question my ideas.
8. I research thoroughly any risks or changes I make.
9. There is someone in my life I constantly try to please.
10. I tend to avoid uncertain or uncomfortable situations.
If you answered yes to more than three statements – don’t worry. There’s a simple recipe I implore to get me over my fear especially a fear that exists in my subconscious.
Go through the fear. Sounds silly but it’s necessary. The most difficult part of dealing with a fear is the anticipation – which causes us to stop when we begin to be afraid. And because we see what happens when we push the boundaries – the fear gets worse. The best way to get rid of this fear is to let the part of us that keeps it alive die. Not literally. Seriously, we need to get rid of what is standing in our way – the part that convinces us that we cannot survive without buying into this fear.
“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood.” Marie Curie
