What causes butterflies, knots, avoidance, self-consciousness, and fear? These are the feelings you may get when escaping the trap of your comfort zone. So why does leaving the safety of your comfort zone, at its core, hurt so much?
Humiliation. Next to the natural fears of falling and loud noise, the fear of humiliation is a confidence-killer.
Psychologically speaking, your comfort zone (Part I) is a simulated mental boundary designed to maintain a sense of security (comfort), staying out of great discomfort (pain). The method? Avoiding any semblance of discomfort (pain).
We’ve got our built-in power within us: influence. Women see the world differently than men. When you understand this, and know how to recognize it, then use it, you’ve got the influence to make a (comfort zone) power leap.
A Girl’s Gotta Expand . . . Beyond Her Comfort Zone
The definition of today’s woman is influence, a skill that that spotlights her strengths instead of her perceived weaknesses. You were born with mental prowess, a strong and pliable identity, keen emotional insight and relational tools different from men.
Capitalize on them. Let them work for you.
Power women follow these 7 practices when saying goodbye to their safety nest:
1. Become the influencer.
Know who’s going to be the influencer. An influencer is someone who affects the actions of others. If you aren’t sure it’s you – become sure.
Recognize when you are being influenced — you’re kept waiting, you hear ‘honey’ one too many times, continuous talking –by someone else, and attempts to instill a sense of urgency.
There are two reasons no woman should fear leaving their comfort zone. [Read More]
What is it that propels women into zones of great accomplishment from zones of pleasant safe comfort? I call it – comfort zone relocation!
Lisa Weber, 46, the daughter of a New Jersey taxi driver who was president of Individual Business for MetLife Inc., one of the world’s largest providers of insurance and financial services – a hulking enterprise with $19 billion in revenues and some $1.5 billion in operating profits – has definitely set the bar for moving out of her comfort zone.
Weber hesitated in 1998, fearful she had no sales background, when asked by Rob Henrickson, MetLife’s CEO, to take a role in operations. She could have stayed in a position that required little risk, no need for competition, and few reasons for assertion.
Did that stop her? [Read More]
Behind every woman is a great…woman. Here’s mine.
1. Margaret Thatcher – Britain’s first female prime minister made her first bid for public office only two years after graduating college. Seemingly disenchanted on the future of women in politics, Thatcher once said, “I don’t think there will be a woman prime minister in my lifetime,” during a 1973 television appearance. The “Iron Lady” proved herself wrong a year later by becoming a dominant force in her political party using courage, insight and the power of persuasion. Her campaign readiness quote, “I have a woman’s ability to stick to a job and get on with it when everyone else walks off and leaves,” led to historical success. The woman inspired me to march out of step. If Margaret Thatcher could claim her place in the world, than so would I.
Behind every great woman is a…great woman. Here’s mine.
In his Christmas Eve homily, Pope Benedict XVI hit the influential nail on its head when he said, “Conflict in the world stems from the fact that we are locked into our own interests and our desires. For most people, the things of God are not given priority . . . . And so the great majority of us tend to postpone them.” He went on to say, “a path for discovering and appreciating God exists for everyone. It is a path marked with signs.”
Wow! This is what I’m saying about soul influence. (Not that I compare myself to the Pope… we don’t even dress alike.)
But the idea that the path is marked with signs is intriguing . . . and real. Those signs come from the whisperings of a woman’s soul.
Does it matter if you don’t listen to the calling of your soul?
The secret to influence is soul.
We often forget that there’s a divine intelligence, an all-knowing, creative intelligence, that I call the Grand Overall Designer (GOD) that is showing us the way.
That still small whisper is like a radio station we can tune into 24 hours a day.
What we don’t listen to, we can’t express.
God pours soul messages direct to our hearts. These messages are felt as emotions, dreams, visualizations, hunches and feelings.
Because each and every one is designed for good, this love is not only unconditional, it’s infinite. It cannot be thwarted, changed, altered, negated or stopped by human rationalizations, or old fashion ego (insane) thinking.
God’s love is the peace that surpasses all human imagination. We don’t make up these messages, we access them. (Sort of like downloading files from the Internet.)
Check it out. This truth is at the core of every religion.
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